Divorce brings a whirlwind of emotions, legalities, and life-altering decisions. It’s unfortunately also not a quick process – often times taking 1-2 years or more to finalize. You will hear that divorce is a marathon, not a sprint, and just like mile 20 makes runners want to collapse, people going through divorce often want to throw in the towel just to make the pain go away. You’re not alone. This is decision fatigue.
Decision fatigue makes you want to give up and potentially compromise on things that your gut is telling you that you shouldn’t. Decision fatigue makes it hard to keep fighting because you think it’s a losing battle. Decision fatigue makes you want to focus on finding immediate solutions to alleviate the present stress.
I promise there is a light at the end of the tunnel and you will get through it. But the choices you make today are so important for your future.
I want you to make more informed and empowered choices during this challenging time. It will end, and on the other side, I want to make sure that you have set yourself up for the best possible future, even though today (and tomorrow) may suck.
Understanding Decision Fatigue in Divorce
In the midst of this tumultuous period, it’s vital to extend our perspective beyond the immediate chaos and contemplate how the choices we make today will resonate in the years to come.
Imagine yourself five years down the line and in a happier place. When you think about that happier place, what does your life look like? Are you more independent? Are you stronger? Are you more free or do you feel lighter? Feel that sunshine on your face.
How will this more empowered future person feel about the decisions you’re contemplating today? Will those decisions align with your long-term goals and aspirations? Are you building the foundation for a better Future You?
Having a longer-term perspective shift can be a powerful tool in combating decision fatigue. Future You is always worth fighting for.
Decision Fatigue in Divorce Finances
When dividing assets, consider the financial implications not just for today, but for your future stability. Are you contemplating a compromise that you feel you may regret in a couple of years once the cloud of divorce has passed? Are any of the decisions you are contemplating today going to make it harder to move forward independently in the future?
Take a hard look in the mirror and listen to that inner voice – are you settling to make the stress go away or is the compromise really what is best for your family? Negotiation and compromise are pivotal in divorce – I am all about compromise – but compromise that lopsidedly hurts you or has the potential to make you feel less proud of yourself is not beneficial to you long term.
Having a mindful approach to your future provides a compass, steering you towards choices that align with your long-term well-being and happiness.
Emotional Resilience in Decision-Making
Recognizing that decision-making during divorce is emotionally charged, it’s essential to approach choices with compassion and self-kindness. Allow yourself the space to grieve, to reflect, and to seek support. Seek out professional guidance and surround yourself with a support system that understands the gravity of this journey and gives you the space and guidance that you need.
Remember, every decision, no matter how small, is a step toward crafting a future that reflects your authentic self. Celebrate these steps – they signify your strength and resilience in the face of adversity.
As you navigate the intricate terrain of divorce, remember that you are not alone. By considering the long-term impact of your decisions and approaching them with emotional mindfulness, you empower yourself to shape a future that aligns with your deepest aspirations. Seek out the support and guidance you need, and embrace each decision as a stride towards your own well-being and happiness. You’ve got this.
If you need support understanding how the financial decisions you are faced with in your divorce will impact your financial future, contact a CDFA® professional today.